• Qui n'a jamais cherché à « déchiffrer » l'énigme de l'amour ? Qui ne s'est demandé s'il était voué à l'éphémère ou s'il pouvait durer toujours ?
    Parce que le baiser est l'image qui condense plus que toute autre le mystère de l'amour, le psychanalyste italien Massimo Recalcati explore ce moment d'intimité pour répondre à d'éternelles questions.
    Le désir, les enfants, la trahison et le pardon, la violence, la séparation et l'amour infini sont les sujets de ces brèves leçons qui, dans la lignée de Fragments d'un discours amoureux de Roland Barthes, proposent une réflexion passionnante sur le miracle d'aimer.

    « Une superbe analyse du couple, du premier regard à la séparation. » Donna Moderna
    « Si vous lisez les mots de Massimo Recalcati sur l'amour, vous tomberez amoureux... de l'amour, tout simplement. » La Repubblica

  • Le reste du père qui survit, après la dissolution de sa fonction théologique et idéologique, est seulement un acte singulier, une incarnation de l'alliance possible entre Loi et désir, un geste éthique de responsabilité par rapport à son propre désir.

    Dans ce livre la version symbolique du Père est questionnée parce que le temps de sa gloire (structuraliste) a expiré. Il s'agit pour l'auteur de penser au père en tant que reste et non en tant qu'Idéal normatif, comme un acte singulier et non comme un pur symbole, comme incarnation et non comme fonction signifiante, comme témoignage éthique et non comme principe premier, comme rencontre contingente et non comme Nom, comme responsabilité éthique et non comme garantie ontologique.

  • Nous avons tous été des Télémaque. Nous avons tous au moins une fois regardé la mer dans l'attente de quelque chose. Quelque chose revient toujours de la mer... Aujourd'hui, ce que nos enfants attendent, c'est un père, mais pas n'importe quel père, pas un père autoritaire, à l'ancienne, mais un père qui puisse, par sa présence, témoigner de sa foi en l'avenir et donner un sens à l'existence. Télémaque est ce fils qui non seulement attend le retour de son père Ulysse, mais qui part à sa recherche. Il est celui qui oeuvre pour que soient rétablies, dans sa maison envahie par les prétendants, la loi et la parole paternelles. Ici nul conflit entre générations comme chez OEdipe, nulle affirmation stérile de soi comme chez Narcisse, mais une demande inédite de père, un besoin de témoignage qui établisse de façon ferme qu'on peut vivre avec dynamisme et vitalité sur cette terre. Au final, c'est de ce voyage du fils que dépendront le retour du père, le rétablissement de la Loi et la possibilité d'une nouvelle alliance entre générations. Au coeur d'une réflexion très actuelle sur les relations parents/enfants, la question cruciale de la transmission et de la filiation : de quoi nos enfants ont-ils fondamentalement besoin d'hériter pour pouvoir avancer dans la vie ? Massimo Recalcati est psychanalyste. Spécialiste de la question du père, il enseigne aujourd'hui à l'Université de Pavie. Vrai phénomène d'édition en Italie, il est aujourd'hui considéré comme l'un des essayistes les plus brillants de sa génération.   

  • The Enduring Kiss

    Massimo Recalcati

    • Polity
    • 14 Janvier 2021

    The kiss is the image that, perhaps more than any other, encompasses the beauty and poetry of love. Every love is required to maintain the kiss, to make it last. When they kiss, lovers carve out their hiding holes, finding their peace from war. When they kiss, the noise of the world is silenced, its laws broken, time is stolen from its normal continuity. They fall together in their distinct, embraced tongues. The kiss joins the tongue that declares love with the body of the lover. And the extinction of the kiss and, most importantly, of the desire to kiss one's beloved announces the demise of love. In this short book, Massimo Recalcati - one of Italy's leading intellectuals and bestselling authors - offers seven brief lessons on the mystery and miracle of love, from the serendipity of the first encounter to its end or its continuation over time, as mysterious and miraculous as the first encounter itself.

  • In this book the bestselling author and psychoanalyst Massimo Recalcati offers a fundamental re-examination of what `being a mother' means today, in a world where new social and sexual freedoms mean that motherhood is no longer the sole destiny of women. Questioning the belief that a mother's love is natural and unconditional, he paints a more complex and troubling picture of the mother-child relationship, observing that mothers may even resent their children as a result of unresolved conflicts between different dimensions of love. The mother's hands not only nurture but can also potentially harm. Recalcati argues that it is precisely in these competing demands that motherhood fulfils its function: only if the mother is `not-all-mother' can a child experience the absence that enables it to access the symbolic and cultural world. Recalcati cuts through conventional wisdom to offer a fresh perspective on the changing nature of motherhood today. An international bestseller, this book will appeal to a wide general readership, as well as to students and scholars of gender studies, psychoanalysis and related disciplines.

  • Anglais The Telemachus Complex

    Massimo Recalcati

    • Polity
    • 11 Octobre 2019

    Fatherhood today is in crisis. Fathers have gone missing, or have become their children's playmates, and the symbolic authority of the father has lost its power. What remains of the father today in the wake of this decline, and what should the relation between children and parents now be?  In addressing these questions, Massimo Recalcati draws inspiration from the story of Telemachus in Homer's Odyssey. The Telemachus complex is the reverse of the Oedipus complex. Recalcati argues that children are possessed not just with a desire to annihilate their father, as their key rival in the contest to win the mother's love, but also with a longing for a father-figure, as someone who brings meaning, structure and order to their lives and who imbues them with a sense of the future.  This fresh and insightful account of the changing relations between parents and children in the era of the decline of the father will be of great interest to a wide general readership.

  • Relationships fall apart, marriages fail, couples break up - it happens to us all. Time corrodes passion and the routines of daily life kill the excitement that surrounds the emotion of the first encounter. The difficulty of uniting sexual pleasure with love, which Freud considered to be the most common neurosis in any love life, has become emblematic of a truth that seems undeniable: desire is destined to die if its object is not constantly renewed, if we do not change partner, if it is closed for too long in the restrictive chamber of the same bond.  
    And yet what happens to these bonds when one of the two partners betrays the other, when the promise fails, when there is another emotional experience cloaked in secrecy and deceit? What happens if the traitor then begs forgiveness? Are they asking to be loved again and, having declared that it is not like it used to be, now want everything to go back to how it was? Should we make fun of lovers in their attempts to make love last? Or should we try to face up to the experience of betrayal, with the offence caused by the person we love most? Should we not perhaps attempt to praise forgiveness in love?

  • Anglais The Son's Secret

    Massimo Recalcati

    • Polity
    • 3 Avril 2020

    This new book by Massimo Recalcati focuses on the psycho-social life of the son. Comparing and contrasting the tragic story of Oedipus by Sophocles and the parable of the prodigal son, Recalcati argues that all common parenting strategies, whether authoritarian or democratic, are attempts at sealing the fate of sons - that is, they are designed to ensure that sons realize the dreams and fantasies of the parents. But all that sons want - and this is their secret because they generally do not want, or are unable, to confront their parents directly - is to be recognized as unique, as different, as independent, free-thinking individuals who are able to chart their own path in life, rather than extensions of their parents' fantasies. The parents' task is to acknowledge this, and to create the space for this desire to flourish. Continuing his remarkable reflections on parents, children and family life, this new book by one of Italy's leading and bestselling public intellectuals will be of interest to a wide general readership.

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